Honesty

They praise honesty, but it'd be the worst thing you want to give them; they hate it!

Personal charisma

There is no such a thing as true personal charisma. It's all about wealth, power, beauty, education, etc. In absence of all these, the charisma is still in result of the day fashionable lifestyle, ideology, and opinion. It is all external. It is all fashion.

Die if you can

I love a god who can die!

Groups

I am essentially an anti-group-ization person. I am an individualist by nature. Groups may do well though in collaboration and efficient use of resources. But if you want to form groups, only have one or two core elements to build your group on. Don't define every single detail as you'd have to find yourself in a vicious cycle of defining yourself against other groups and an inter-group competition for nothing but the illusion of "we are the better than them". In some tragic cases, it may even lead to fascism. Religion can always be an example.

Leadership workshops

So if you ask me what would make up a leader, I'd say I don't know, but certainly not workshops and seminars that international NGOs in Afghanistan believe in.